How Many Groomsmen is Too Many?
Choosing your groomsmen can be just as difficult as choosing whom to marry. If it were easy, you’d be appointing all your best friends as a groomsman. But it’s not.
You must factor in your friendships, your family bonds, and other intimate connections. You have other considerations too, like your wedding budget—especially your wedding budget. You probably know that weddings aren’t cheap, and while groomsmen generally pay for their own suits, fare, and accommodations, you still have to buy each of them a gift, as per tradition.
As you can see, you can’t just ask everyone in your inner circle to become a groomsman in your wedding. Otherwise, the occasion may not even pull through.
Then, how many groomsmen should you have in your wedding?
The Golden Ratio for the Silver Band
Seeing as how, traditionally, groomsmen are supposed to aid guests during the reception and generally provide help throughout the party, it makes sense that their numbers should be in proportion to how many guests you are expecting.
For a formal wedding with over two hundred guests, the suggested number of groomsmen is between six to ten; aim for one usher for every fifty people or so. Informal weddings can get away with half of that.
Of course, you need to strike a balance between the number of groomsmen and of bridesmaids. Too many on one side will be unfair to you or your partner, and a big imbalance will be glaringly obvious during the wedding entrance and the wedding itself.
In relation to this, you should also require your guests to respond to your invitations (a.k.a. RSVP) so that anyone who’s uninvited can’t get into the event even if they’re with one of your invitees. That’ll help your groomsmen manage the party, especially when you appoint them exactly by the recommended ratio.
A Token for Each Groomsman
Do you need to present your groomsmen with gifts? You definitely should. It’s a way of showing your appreciation to them for being there on your wedding day and for all the years of friendship they’ve given you.
If you find it hard to pick the perfect gifts, there are a lot of gift shops out there that cater specifically to groomsmen. Stores like Groovy Groomsmen Gifts have customizable options if you want to personalize your gifts for each of your groomsmen. Small details like their names engraved on the item can make that present more special.
Now, since you’ll be treating your guys with gifts, the potential costs should incentivize you not to appoint too many groomsmen. Otherwise, your expenses may go beyond your means, and.if you can’t buy even a meager endowment to all your groomsmen, the unlucky ones may take it the wrong way and get offended.
The Dilemma of Devotion
Now, perhaps, one of your most difficult decisions in your life: whom to appoint as a groomsman.
It may help if you list down the names of your male relatives and friends. A female can also be a groomsman or best woman if they mean that much to you, but be sure to discuss this with your bride-to-be first.
On that list, estimate how long they’ve known you, and compare how much they mean to you and you to them. You may place priority on your relatives, but leave space for your friends too. If you still have problems deciding, then pick a best man first, then have them help you choose from your list.
Your groomsmen are your confidantes, your chosen comrades whom you trust with your happiest day. They need to have earned that trust through the years you’ve known them, as an unreliable groomsman may just be a deadweight in your wedding plans.
With that in mind and your list in hand, choose your groomsmen wisely. You only have positions available for a few. So make sure you choose the ones who matter to you most.
In collaboration with Groovy Groomsmen Gifts